"Finding Freedom Through Forgiveness"

Our thoughts are affected by what we are taught and by our life experiences. The booklet "Finding Freedom Through Forgiveness" deals with judgments and vows affecting our lives. Some of these we are dead set on; others aren't even in our consciousness. Below is a explanation of judgments and nine steps that can free us from them.

JUDGMENTS

The character of a judgment as we use it in The VeilWork Method is any statement of fact or belief that is motivated by or results in an emotional response on the part of the one making the statement. To make such a statement or judgment is not in accord with God's purposes for His children.

We are told in Scripture to judge for ourselves what is right (Luke 12:57), and to judge with righteous judgment (John 7:24). Paul explicitly passes judgment on a flagrant sinner in 1 Corinthians 5:3, and commends the church to set up tribunals for judging disputes between members (1 Corinthians 6). He commands us to shun those who claim to be Christians but who live like pagans (1 Corinthians 5:9-11). He specifically states that we are to judge and expel the wicked from our midst (1 Corinthians 5:12-13). These actions require a legal decision or judgment, a decision that allows order and government to function. It is meant to be an unbiased decision arrived at on the basis of fact so that justice would be served and truth prevail.

Yet Matthew 7:1-2 tells us we are not to judge others or by that same measure we will be judged. Larry Richards points out in Expository Dictionary of Bible Words (Zondervan,1985) that the "thought is that we must not assume the right to condemn others" (p. 365). The passage in Romans 2:1-3, warns, "At whatever point you judge the other, you are condemning yourself." Mr. Richards points out here that "to pass judgment implies the assumption of a moral superiority that we simply do not possess. We are all sinners; no human being is able to judge others without becoming vulnerable to the same judgment " (p. 365). As sinful humans we are not competent to measure motives or to establish convictions for others. Instead, we are called to relate to others in love, with acceptance and forgiveness that is freely given.

Galatians 6:7-8 says that we reap what we sow. Thus, you will find yourself doing the very thing you judged another as doing. At other times you will find yourself caught in the extreme opposite behavior of what you have judged. The judgments we have made affect our behavior much more than we expect or are even conscious of at times.

The following is a list of the nine steps which provide a thorough dealing with the judgments we make. An example is given to help you to understand how to apply the steps.

Step 1. Forgive me for the anger and resentment I feel toward You, Lord, my parents, my siblings, my spouse, my children, all those who have caused me to feel ............... Here you fill in the blank with whatever you feel when you think of the wrong that has been done to you. You can also add the names of any specific individuals you feel have hurt you.

For our example you might fill in the blank in this step with "that I am not as important as others, that I don't count."

Step 2. Forgive me for judging that ............... Here you put the thoughts, statements or feelings that keep playing in your mind. An example would be:

Forgive me for judging that my parents:
1. Didn't give me the attention I needed.
2. Favored my brother.
3. Gave him more presents than I got.

Forgive me for judging that my parents:
4. Disciplined me more harshly than they did him.
5. Let him get away with things.

Forgive me for judging that:
6. I need more attention now from my wife or friends to make up for the lack in the past.
7. I am not as valued or valuable as my brother.
8. I have to try to prove I'm as good as my brother.
9. I have to prove I'm better than others so maybe they will value me, etc.

Step 3. Stir Your grace within me that I might forgive You, Lord, my parents, my siblings, my spouse, my children, all those who made me feel that I am not important, that I don't count. You put in the same list from step 1 above.

Step 4. Stir Your grace within me that I might forgive the debt I feel I am owed because of the wrong that was done to me.

Step 5. Stir Your grace within me that I might release the sense of entitlement I feel to ................... Here you look at what you feel you are entitled to feel, do or have because of your having been wronged. To follow our example, you could fill in the blank with "prove I'm better than others in order to gain the recognition and attention I need."

Step 6. Forgive me for my pride in my woundedness and struggle that feels as if it is more than others have endured (or more than others have had to put up with). Even if at a conscious level we think this isn't true, we often feel this at some deep inner level.

Step 7. Stir Your grace within me that I might forgive myself for being caught in these judgments. When we begin to understand the impact of our behavior and our judgments on others, we may have a tendency to condemn ourselves. This keeps us from being stuck in that condemnation.

Step 8. Lord, destroy the fruit of these judgments in my life and my family's life even for the future generations. The judgments follow the family line if the pattern isn't broken.

Step 9. By Your grace, Lord, enable me to desire Your blessing to be manifest in the lives of all those who have hurt me. Here you might want to specifically list what hurt from step 1 above or list the people from step 1 above. These judgment steps are a tool that can help you to die to self if you are willing to bring your thoughts before Him. They are the core of each Idol within the Veil system. The booklet also talks of vows

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